پادکست BBC شماره ۲۶۶ – How much is your spouse worth

پادکست BBC شماره ۲۶۶

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در این قسمت درباره اینکه تحقیقات جدید نشان می دهد، تقریباً دو میلیون زن و شوهر متاهل در انگلیس امور مالی خود را از همسر خود مخفی نگه می دارند و حدود ۴۴٪ افراد متاهل نمی دانند همسرشان چه میزان درآمد دارد، صحبا میکنیم. به نیل و آلیس گوش بدهید تا بدانید که در مورد روابط و پول چه فکر می کنند و برخی از واژگان مرتبط را یاد بگیرید.

در زیر کلمات کلیدی که باید با آن‌ها آشنا شوید برایتان توضیح داده شده‌اند:

go dutch : share the cost of something, for example a meal

go dutch : هزینه چیزی را به اشتراک گذاشتن، به عنوان مثال یک وعده غذایی

spouse : husband or wife

spouse : همسر

to be in debt : to owe money to someone

to be in debt :به کسی بدهکار بودن

mortgage : where a bank lends you money to buy a house

mortgage : جایی که یک بانک به شما پول می دهد برای خرید یک خانه

hard cash : physical money – the coins and banknotes

hard cash : پول فیزیکی – سکه و اسکناس

cheapskate : someone who doesn’t like spending money

cheapskate : کسی که پول خرج کردن را دوست ندارد

budget : the money you have available for something and a plan for how to use it

budget : پولی که برای چیزی در دسترس دارید و طرحی برای استفاده از آن

agree to differ : accept that we have different opinions on something

agree to differ : پذیرفتن نظرات مختاف دیگران

Transcript of the podcast

پادکست BBC 6 minute English – How much is your spouse worth

Alice
Hello and welcome to 6 Minute English. I’m Alice…

Neil
… and I’m Neil. Hello.

Alice
Hello, Neil. Now tell me, do you usually go dutch when you take someone out to dinner?

Neil
Now go dutch means to share the cost of something, for example a meal in a restaurant. Well Alice, no, I usually expect my date to pay actually.

Alice
I hope you’re joking, Neil. But I wouldn’t be surprised! Personally, I think it’s a nice gesture to offer to pay for the meal when you’re on a date.

Neil
Yeah. But it can depend on the situation – some people might be very offended if you offered to pay for everything!

Alice
Well yes, true. Clearly you’re not going to offend those people, Neil, though are you? And I won’t be going to dinner with you any time soon.

Neil
Well, I didn’t ask so calm down, Alice! Actually, money matters can cause relationship problems in couples – and that’s the subject of the show. Here’s today’s quiz question based on a UK survey. Ready, Alice?

Alice
I am indeed.

Neil
What percentage of married couples don’t know exactly what their spouse earns? Is it:
a) 4%?
b) 14%?
Or c) 44%

Alice
Well, gosh! I think b) 14%. Yes, that sounds about right to me.

Neil
Well, we’ll find out if you’re right or wrong later on. Now, it seems important that couples are honest about their finances because it can have an impact on their future financial options together.

Alice
Yes, that’s right. If you’re buying a house together and then find out later that your spouse – your husband or wife – is thousands of pounds in debt, then the chances are you won’t be able to get a mortgage. To be in debt, by the way, means to owe money to someone.

Neil
Good point. A mortgage is where a bank lends you money to buy a house. Let’s listen now to what Arabella Russell, a relationship therapist, has to say about this.

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Arabella Russell, relationship therapist
The fact of the matter is it’s very difficult – it can be very difficult – to talk about money. Often when we talk about money, it’s emotions very close to us – there’s guilt, there’s shame. What have we done in the past? To start those conversations is complicated. Money can be about how we value ourselves, how we feel valued. It’s not just a simple case of talking about hard cash.

Neil
Arabella talks about ‘hard cash’. Now what does that mean?

Alice
Well, we say hard cash when we talk about physical money – the coins and banknotes – as opposed to other types of payment.

Neil
And why do we find it so difficult to talk about cash, Alice?

Alice
Well, because we get emotional about it! Arabella talks about feelings of guilt and shame. And for many of us, money isn’t simply money – it can be about how we value ourselves or feel valued.

Neil
Right – so if I were to buy you a cheap engagement ring you would feel undervalued.

Alice
Nice example, Neil! You can’t be a cheapskate when it comes to engagement rings! So how much would you spend on our engagement ring, Neil?

Neil
Well… um… I didn’t know we were getting married!  But if I was buying an engagement ring for you Alice, I think definitely I would spend about… you know around… in the region of … mmm pounds…

Alice
Sorry, Neil, I didn’t quite catch that. Alright!

Neil
Are you calling me a cheapskate?

Alice
I certainly am, Neil. Cheapskate means someone who doesn’t like spending money, by the way. Moving on – let’s hear more from Arabella about how people have different attitudes towards money.

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Arabella Russell, relationship therapist
Accept the fact that in your relationship you might do money differently – there might be a spender there might be a saver. It’s very tempting if your partner does things differently to say they’re wrong. They might do it differently because they see money differently. Do it differently but have a budget. Of course be honest about each other but recognise that you might just have a different view of money.

Neil
Now that sounds like excellent advice to me! I’m a saver, and I’m not ashamed to say it. Why waste money on an expensive engagement ring? Engagements don’t always last. You might drop the ring down the kitchen sink or…

Alice
How romantic, Neil!

Neil
… it could be stolen or you might meet someone else.

Alice
Indeed. Now I know I shouldn’t say you’re wrong… but you’re wrong! You have to invest in a relationship if you want it to work.

Neil
Calm down. I see money differently to you. I’m a saver and you’re a spender, and that’s all there is to it. And a budget means the money you have available for something and a plan for how to use it.

Alice
Well, we’ll have to agree to differ. And that means accept that we have different opinions on this one! Can we have the answer to today’s quiz question then, please?

Neil
Yes, we can. I asked: What percentage of married couples don’t know exactly what their spouse earns? Is it:
a) 4%?
b) 14%?
Or c) 44%

Alice
And I said b) 14%.

Neil
And you are absolutely and completely… wrong! The correct answer is 44%. Now that’s according to new research conducted by the UK credit report service, Noddle, who also found that an astonishing 1.9 million married couples actively try to keep their finances secret from their partners!

Alice
Gosh, what a lot of people! Can we have today’s words again then, Neil, please?

Neil
Yes, we can. Here they are:
go dutch
spouse
to be in debt
mortgage
hard cash
cheapskate
budget
agree to differ 

Alice
Well, that brings us to the end of today’s 6 Minute English. We hope you thought today’s programme was good value. Please join us again soon. See you then.

Both
Bye.

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